This is something I have been hearing for a long time now. "Time
would heal", "Time is the healer", "Leave it to time".
Does Time heal? ....... I believe it does. Time plays its role in
so many aspects. Be it some injury, time definitely heals it. Some
incident that a person wants to forget ... time makes one forget it.
Things not going your way..... Leave it to time, this is just a
passing phase, a bad patch...... everything will be alright.
At 'times' it makes me wonder, is this phrase used because it
actually works?! Or is it the most appropriate thing to say at those
instances when nothing else can be said and silence is killing.
As this thought came by... I remembered a friend of mine
saying something so contradictory about Time being a healer. "Yes,
Time does heal.... but then it's too late, it's a Operation Success,
Patient Dead situation"........does this hold good? This might be
true at times as it is frustration when someone waits for time to
take over and act upon and one has to just wait.
There are something’s that are not in one's hands....and we
have to just leave it to time..... After all, it does change things!
I remember this song ..... Time Changer of seasons.....by Boney M
Nice thought, Div!
ReplyDeleteAccording to me all these things, be it pain, be it thoughts, feelings, emotions*... are like Unsustained Oscillations. It oscillates with a very high amplitutde initially, but gradually damps out before it finally dies...
And If You see this from an other angle, you will see that time doesnt actually heal, but none of these will sustain in the race against time.
Probably "Time Heals" is just an other way of telling one that what he/she is experiencing wont sustain for long in this race against time.
Regards
Kishan
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*I just noticed that I have almost quoted the title of your blog here *wink*!!!!!
one more thing to add...not just these psychological entities, but even the human body wont sustain in the race against time...
ReplyDeleteAlbeit, it sustains for a relatively longer period than the other psychological entities
I am one of those blessed with poor memory. I never realized that it was a blesssing untill I put myself in the shoes of someone who had perpetual memory. For time to heal, one needs to have normal to poor memory.....
ReplyDeleteTime - a healer?
ReplyDeleteYes... here is a live example. Couple of days back my friend n his brother started fighting with each other like hell and decided to go in their own direction. At this point of time i was like "whoa... whatz going on here?". Within the next 24hrs, both of them realized that what they did was wrong n now they are back to normal.
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ReplyDelete@Kishan - My! That looks like a Physicist's touch to the whole idea about Time. Nice expression there!
@Dheepak - Very different perspective...interesting, I never gave a thought about Memory making things fade away from one's mind
@Manjesh- Guess each one would have some such example ... isn't it??? .. The everyday story!
Well, I do concur with what Manji has to say. The role of time as a healer is one like that of allowing the nature take its course. Much like a wound that eventually hardens off, and cures itself if given the time, so does the psychology of the mind work! It takes time for the seed to grow into a tree, for the plants to bloom, for the seasons to change. So yeah, time is not just the healer! He is a lot more too!!
ReplyDeleteNice entry... I'm quite inclined to concur with Kishan's remarks.
ReplyDeleteAbout mememory, one may forget at the superficial level - because we get occupied by so many other things - but you never know when old memories will resurface again - for example at old age.
Siddartha by Herman Hesse has some very interesting perceptions about time. I dont want to give more details because its best understood in the particular context of the story. However I can quote the excerpt if you drop me a note.
Some more time related ideas :-)
Anyway I feel that mostly time heals, but if we keep on reacting negatively to old memories, then on the other hand time can make things worse as well! Depends entirely on the way we react.